The rising visibility of interracial couples calls for increased attention to the overlapping of culture and race in safe spaces centered on small-group dynamics or in public spaces where peoples of African descent are under the public gaze. This comparative study seeks to de-center the U. S-centered viewpoint common to much of the literature on black/white relations. Based on nine years of fieldwork in the American South and in France Coquet shows many unexpected parallels between the two societies. Gendered perceptions of cultural authenticity and sexual ethics are a guiding thread being inseparable from the historical and political contingencies (re-)defining acceptable forms of dating marrying and parenting among cis-heterosexual couples in both societies. Her account emphasizes resilience and agency as couples seek to protect themselves and their children while their extended or symbolic kinship networks help white partners acknowledge the existence of racial privilege. Language: English